Do your kids live too far away, or do they live too close?

One of the results of traveling so much with our children when they were young is that they now think they can live anywhere they want in the world.
When our second son Jonah and his wife Aja moved to New Zealand, we complained about taking our grandkids so far away. “Just fall asleep on the plane Dad,” Jonah told me, “and when you wake up, you will be here.” (yeah, sure, if flights were only free!) Aja added “Besides, you will probably skype us more often now.”
So here’s the alignment of our nine:
One in Boston
One in New York
One in Washington DC
One in LA (Orange County)
One in San Francisco
One is Seattle (Olympic Peninsula)
Two in Phoenix (Gilbert)
One in St. George

(Here is the one close family….the grandkids from it at least….in St. George)

So do we wish they lived closer? Sometimes.
We don’t see them every night. We miss a lot of the grandkids performances and games. We skype and blog and miss them all the time. But then again, we don’t get the grandkids dropped off on us night or day at the spur of the moment.
And when we are with them, we are really with them! Two or three day visits pack in more quality time than we might have in months if they lived down the street. We have a reunion every Summer at Bear Lake that is fantastic beyond anything that could happen if we were within spitting distance. And we’re lucky that we travel on business as much as we do—and you would be amazed how many destinations can be reached by going through one of the seven cities listed above.
We’re also lucky that technology has made face to face instant communication so easy. We use oovoo.com to get six or eight of us on line (and on screen) at the same time. We have yahoo groups where everyone sees what everyone else is doing. And we have bloggers! Oh my do we have bloggers! If you want an example, take a look at 71toes.blogspot.com —and from there you can go to all of our other kids’ blogs—none of them would mind you looking in.
We guess the bottom line is that it’s not how far away or how close your grown kids and grandkids live. Its about how closely you stay in touch, how much you all support each other, and how you express and pass around your love.

This week, for a Thanksgiving greeting and poem by the Eyres, go to http://valuesparenting.com/thanksgiving/index.php

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